Thursday, July 8, 2010
Random question...
As I have looked at the headstone pictures, I often wonder where the red heart that is on his headstone came from? Doesn't really matter I suppose, but I love having it there. Does anyone know where it came from?
Friday, June 11, 2010
Headstone
Sorry, I just realized that this has become a VERY long post. I haven't captured this in my journal, so I guess I am going to get it all written down here! Sorry one of the pictures is oriented the wrong way, but I don't know how to fix it!
I just realized that I never posted pictures from our first trip back to Estes. It was a pretty quick trip. We basically went to the Cemetery where we spent an hour or so and let Hope run around. Then we went to get lunch where Eric saw some old work buddies, then back home in time for naps! Every time we go, I am taken back by the beauty of the cemetery.
This is Hope hanging out, I am not very good at just letting her roam, but she was actually quite a bit further away then I would usually be comfortable with. About all I was worried about was wildlife that might think she looked like a delicious (Hopes new favorite word.) treat!
Okay, so we went back a week ago to see the finished headstone in place! It is really incredible. We are really so happy with it. It was hard to design, because it isn't like we knew enough about Gunner that would have any meaning. Just to share a little about the design process, it was quite interesting! I think usually the designer sends you 3-4 options, you say we like #2 and on to the next phase. Well, not in our case! We spent SO MUCH time trying different ideas, that I believe we became well known in the design office.
After dozens and dozens of ideas, we were getting so frustrated. I even asked Chelsea to help us come up with some ideas. Some of the components were from Chelsea's ideas and keen eye. One night we were standing in our kitchen with scissors and bits and pieces of all of the headstones spread out all over the counter. I decided I was too tired to think anymore, so I left and went to the bathroom to brush my teeth before bed. Eric came in and asked what I would think about a train. That was such a different idea than anything else that we had tried. I started to like the idea immediately. When I asked Eric about how he came up with the idea, he just said the idea came to him like most promptings that we have received over the last several months.
I have asked myself why we were blessed with a prompting over something that probably didn't have any eternal significance. Eric pointed out that Heavenly Father probably knew how important it was to us, so he wanted to lessen our burden. What an incredible blessing.
Once we came up with the final design, we went up to Fort Collins to sit down with the designer to make sure everything was perfect. We spent about an hour measuring every single square inch of that headstone multiple times. The designer, Dianne and I started chucking. I asked her if we were the "craziest" family she had worked with. Her reply, "No I had a family about 20 years ago that almost as particular!"
So, there it is we will forever be know as that "particular" family. I am sure that we were know as something else, more like crazy. When we walked into the office, it seemed like we were the main attraction of the day, and everyone wanted to see what this "particular" family looked like. I am hoping that we looked more normal than expected. After that we made one more trip to look at the final step before cutting into granite. Also a step that she has never asked anyone to come back for...
So, we were planning on going up for Memorial day, but decided to wait until the following week, 6-4-10. Eric took a half of a day off, so after nap time we headed up. We started out at the slides, where Hope had a blast and laughed the entire way down. She did a great job climbing all the stairs 3 times. The last time she decided she should go down the slide all by herself, and once Eric sat down, she took off running. Scared me to death! Thank goodness the attendant was fairly close and grabbed her before she took off DOWN the slide!
Then we stopped at Safeway to buy flowers.
A short drive later, we get to see the headstone at last!
Everything is so green around here because of all the rain we are getting, so beautiful!
Then we went and played at a little park by the restaurant we were going to, and walked along the river. The weather was so perfect that day as well.
On our way to dinner, it seemed like everyone was eating ice cream, so I politely informed Eric that I planned on having some after dinner! Hope loved it, we all chose the same flavor, Black Cherry. So good! As you an see some of us REALLY enjoyed it!
If I can also just say, when I looked at the headstone, the thing that touched me the most was the love and generosity that allowed us to get the headstone. Many sacrificed on our behalf so that we could purchase the headstone MUCH sooner than we would have been able to do on our own! I am overcome even today to think of it.
We had a truly incredible day. To me it felt like we were ALL together as a family one more time. Although it has only been 5 months, it feels like a life time ago, that we were asked to say goodbye to our beloved son. I am so sorry to feel like even though the pain has lessened, it is also harder to remember the sound of his cry and small of his hair. What I will never forget is the love that I feel and the ways that he has already made me a better person, more willing to do what it takes!
Thanks for enduring with this VERY LONG post!
I just realized that I never posted pictures from our first trip back to Estes. It was a pretty quick trip. We basically went to the Cemetery where we spent an hour or so and let Hope run around. Then we went to get lunch where Eric saw some old work buddies, then back home in time for naps! Every time we go, I am taken back by the beauty of the cemetery.
This is Hope hanging out, I am not very good at just letting her roam, but she was actually quite a bit further away then I would usually be comfortable with. About all I was worried about was wildlife that might think she looked like a delicious (Hopes new favorite word.) treat!
Okay, so we went back a week ago to see the finished headstone in place! It is really incredible. We are really so happy with it. It was hard to design, because it isn't like we knew enough about Gunner that would have any meaning. Just to share a little about the design process, it was quite interesting! I think usually the designer sends you 3-4 options, you say we like #2 and on to the next phase. Well, not in our case! We spent SO MUCH time trying different ideas, that I believe we became well known in the design office.
After dozens and dozens of ideas, we were getting so frustrated. I even asked Chelsea to help us come up with some ideas. Some of the components were from Chelsea's ideas and keen eye. One night we were standing in our kitchen with scissors and bits and pieces of all of the headstones spread out all over the counter. I decided I was too tired to think anymore, so I left and went to the bathroom to brush my teeth before bed. Eric came in and asked what I would think about a train. That was such a different idea than anything else that we had tried. I started to like the idea immediately. When I asked Eric about how he came up with the idea, he just said the idea came to him like most promptings that we have received over the last several months.
I have asked myself why we were blessed with a prompting over something that probably didn't have any eternal significance. Eric pointed out that Heavenly Father probably knew how important it was to us, so he wanted to lessen our burden. What an incredible blessing.
Once we came up with the final design, we went up to Fort Collins to sit down with the designer to make sure everything was perfect. We spent about an hour measuring every single square inch of that headstone multiple times. The designer, Dianne and I started chucking. I asked her if we were the "craziest" family she had worked with. Her reply, "No I had a family about 20 years ago that almost as particular!"
So, there it is we will forever be know as that "particular" family. I am sure that we were know as something else, more like crazy. When we walked into the office, it seemed like we were the main attraction of the day, and everyone wanted to see what this "particular" family looked like. I am hoping that we looked more normal than expected. After that we made one more trip to look at the final step before cutting into granite. Also a step that she has never asked anyone to come back for...
So, we were planning on going up for Memorial day, but decided to wait until the following week, 6-4-10. Eric took a half of a day off, so after nap time we headed up. We started out at the slides, where Hope had a blast and laughed the entire way down. She did a great job climbing all the stairs 3 times. The last time she decided she should go down the slide all by herself, and once Eric sat down, she took off running. Scared me to death! Thank goodness the attendant was fairly close and grabbed her before she took off DOWN the slide!
Then we stopped at Safeway to buy flowers.
A short drive later, we get to see the headstone at last!
Everything is so green around here because of all the rain we are getting, so beautiful!
Then we went and played at a little park by the restaurant we were going to, and walked along the river. The weather was so perfect that day as well.
On our way to dinner, it seemed like everyone was eating ice cream, so I politely informed Eric that I planned on having some after dinner! Hope loved it, we all chose the same flavor, Black Cherry. So good! As you an see some of us REALLY enjoyed it!
If I can also just say, when I looked at the headstone, the thing that touched me the most was the love and generosity that allowed us to get the headstone. Many sacrificed on our behalf so that we could purchase the headstone MUCH sooner than we would have been able to do on our own! I am overcome even today to think of it.
We had a truly incredible day. To me it felt like we were ALL together as a family one more time. Although it has only been 5 months, it feels like a life time ago, that we were asked to say goodbye to our beloved son. I am so sorry to feel like even though the pain has lessened, it is also harder to remember the sound of his cry and small of his hair. What I will never forget is the love that I feel and the ways that he has already made me a better person, more willing to do what it takes!
Thanks for enduring with this VERY LONG post!
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Water FUN!
Last year Jordan gave Hope a flower sprinkler head, but it wasn't until this year that we really got to try it out. Right as we were headed out the door, we got a phone call that my Dad was on his way to the hospital with another heart attack. We only spent a few minutes before I decided to head to the hospital, even though we weren't sure what was going on yet. Hope had a great time and I still managed to take a few pictures. Probably because I already had the camera in hand!
There is a new park over by the office that has some really fun things. We were over that way this last Saturday, and we decided to go to the park. We didn't know that it has some really fun water features for the kids, so were weren't really prepared. We had a blast anyway, and just let Hope have fun in her clothes.
We were headed to the store, and didn't have a change of clothes. My brilliant husband had the idea to hang her clothes outside the window to try and get them to dry. We definitely had a few people pointing and laughing. I guess their Mothers never taught them it wasn't nice to point and laugh!
There is a new park over by the office that has some really fun things. We were over that way this last Saturday, and we decided to go to the park. We didn't know that it has some really fun water features for the kids, so were weren't really prepared. We had a blast anyway, and just let Hope have fun in her clothes.
We were headed to the store, and didn't have a change of clothes. My brilliant husband had the idea to hang her clothes outside the window to try and get them to dry. We definitely had a few people pointing and laughing. I guess their Mothers never taught them it wasn't nice to point and laugh!
Getting caught up
Okay, so I haven't posted in a while, so I guess it is time to get caught up. I don't know why, but when I look at these pictures, I feel like my baby is growing into a little girl!
This night was really funny because it was a Sunday and Hope hadn't gotten a nap. She was so tired. She sat for an hour trying to build huge stacks from all of her puzzle pieces that she had collected. She definitely did not want any help, from anyone!
She dumped a whole bunch of OJ down the front of her and thought it was pretty funny.
It is so rare that I get a picture with her "real" smile, I just have to share.
This night was really funny because it was a Sunday and Hope hadn't gotten a nap. She was so tired. She sat for an hour trying to build huge stacks from all of her puzzle pieces that she had collected. She definitely did not want any help, from anyone!
She dumped a whole bunch of OJ down the front of her and thought it was pretty funny.
It is so rare that I get a picture with her "real" smile, I just have to share.
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Going Private-Seriously!
Hello friends and family. I know I said it a few months ago, and never got around to doing it. I let my life get in the way. Anyway, if you want to keep up with us, please send me an e-mail or post a comment. I will be going private in less than 24hrs. I know there are a few friends of family members, long time friends etc that read our blog. We will be happy to include you too! All I will say is that I have had an experience that freaked me out, hence the immediate nature of the change. Happy blogging.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
He's My Son
There is a song that my sister Chelsea told me about back when I was still carrying Gunner, fully aware of what I was going to be facing. She warned me that it was a song that I should listen to when I needed a good cry. Well, she was right. I have resisted adding it to the blog because I wasn't quite sure if I could handle listening to it more than when I am alone at my computer. Well, I have grown to LOVE the song.
Obviously it is not about our special son Gunner, it is about the other important "Son" in my life, my Savior. It is a great song, and has so much meaning to me. By Mark Shultz, He's My Son, it is the first song on my play list. Once I added it, I added several others, some that make me feel happy like Jack Johnson, others are memories from High School, like Big Head Todd and the Monsters, some random songs that remind me of special things about my life with Eric.
Lately, I have been turning to music. Sometimes a good song can influence us to feel. Feel whatever it is we need to feel. I am learning that allowing myself to just feel is actually healthy and is allowing me to continue on the path of healing.
The other thing that I am realizing is that sometimes on this blog, it is an outlet that I share a whole lot more than I intend to when I start out. I feel like I am an open book. But once I type it out, I feel better. So am sorry to the few people that read this and may be getting tired of my ramblings.
Obviously it is not about our special son Gunner, it is about the other important "Son" in my life, my Savior. It is a great song, and has so much meaning to me. By Mark Shultz, He's My Son, it is the first song on my play list. Once I added it, I added several others, some that make me feel happy like Jack Johnson, others are memories from High School, like Big Head Todd and the Monsters, some random songs that remind me of special things about my life with Eric.
Lately, I have been turning to music. Sometimes a good song can influence us to feel. Feel whatever it is we need to feel. I am learning that allowing myself to just feel is actually healthy and is allowing me to continue on the path of healing.
The other thing that I am realizing is that sometimes on this blog, it is an outlet that I share a whole lot more than I intend to when I start out. I feel like I am an open book. But once I type it out, I feel better. So am sorry to the few people that read this and may be getting tired of my ramblings.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Blessings and first trip back to Gunner's burial site
I feel so blessed. I am so grateful to be in a place where I can look at some of my trials and my first thoughts are of the blessings and growth that have come. My heart is so full of gratitude. I recently heard of a family that lost a child in a similar situation to ours. The difference is that the baby was very badly malformed. When we first learned about Trisomy 13, it is very uncommon to have a child that looks as "normal" as Gunner did. His visible abnormalities were very mild compared to what they could have been.
The blessing to me is that when I get to see our son again, I will actually recognize him! I was also given enough time with him that I have been able to preserve many tings to keep his memory close to me and to be able to share them with our children as they grow. I can't even begin to share the spiritual growth that has happened.
We did go to the grave site a couple of weeks ago. It was so nice to spend a little time thinking that he knew we were there with him. I would be lying if I didn't admit that I was hoping for just a small glimpse or experience where I KNEW he was there. Nothing profound happened, but I was still grateful that we made it back. If I can figure out how to get pictures downloaded again, I will post a few from our trip to Estes.
The blessing to me is that when I get to see our son again, I will actually recognize him! I was also given enough time with him that I have been able to preserve many tings to keep his memory close to me and to be able to share them with our children as they grow. I can't even begin to share the spiritual growth that has happened.
We did go to the grave site a couple of weeks ago. It was so nice to spend a little time thinking that he knew we were there with him. I would be lying if I didn't admit that I was hoping for just a small glimpse or experience where I KNEW he was there. Nothing profound happened, but I was still grateful that we made it back. If I can figure out how to get pictures downloaded again, I will post a few from our trip to Estes.
Monday, April 12, 2010
That's my girl!
The funniest thing happened when we went out to Chili's for dinner this weekend. In the car on the way to the restaurant, we told Hope that if she was a good girl, we would order chips and salsa, because she loves them, and so do we. When we first got there, the waitress came over and took our drink order. Then she left and the manager came over just to check on us. As she was standing there, the manager looked right at Hope and was saying how cute she was. Hope looked at the manager and said, "Um water, chips" just ordering exactly what she wanted. Several of the tables right around us were laughing right along with us. It just cracked me up how much she is growing up and willing to just speak up for herself! The bribery worked, because she was really good the whole dinner.
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Headstone Update.
Just thought I might post an update about Gunners headstone. We are so grateful to be able to have ordered the headstone. They are trying to get it ready to be placed by memorial day. We are so happy with the design, and hope that it comes out as planned. I am pretty sure that the headstone designer thinks we are downright insane. In fact, when we went to sit down with her to finalize things, I made a comment that we are probably the craziest people that she has ever worked with. She said that there was a family about 20 years ago that was almost as "particular" as us. I can see after spending an hour measuring every single element for Eric, why she might think that we are a little "particular"! That is just they way Eric is, nothing less than the best for those he loves.
I have been having a strong urge recently to find a way to feel Gunner close. We were planning on going up to Estes this last weekend, but the weather didn't cooperate. So, in the next couple of weeks I need to find a way to get to the temple, or up to Estes. I tried to prepare Eric for the idea that I may just drive myself and Hope up to Estes one of these days. I know he wants to go too, but I have a NEED to feel Gunner close to me. It seems that it has been a decade since I have felt him near.
I have been having a strong urge recently to find a way to feel Gunner close. We were planning on going up to Estes this last weekend, but the weather didn't cooperate. So, in the next couple of weeks I need to find a way to get to the temple, or up to Estes. I tried to prepare Eric for the idea that I may just drive myself and Hope up to Estes one of these days. I know he wants to go too, but I have a NEED to feel Gunner close to me. It seems that it has been a decade since I have felt him near.
Easter 2010
In addition to the fun of Easter this year, we were able to listen to conference. I thought it was incredible, and I was pretty sure that the whole conference was given just for me. I can honestly say that I want to be a better person because of what was said during many of the talks.
We had our Easter service the week before, so Hope had the chance to wear her new Easter dress. Unfortunately we took pictures while her hair was still wet and not done, but she looks pretty cute anyway, I think.
This was her Easter basket. Ignore the mess of toys shoved in the corner of the living room. The play room down stairs won't be done soon enough I am afraid.
The funniest thing was when she saw the trail of jelly beans to her basket she said "Oh no! Mess!" then tried to get it all cleaned up until she saw the eggs and realized that this could be pretty fun. We call this straight-from-bed-head.
She shakes when she gets excited, and that is what she is doing here. If you notice the lovely pj's, it is out of necessity that they are #1-boys pj's (75%off, and since we were just going to cut them up...) #2-feet cut out so that we can zip them up the back. When we got home from the hospital, she started taking ALL of her clothes off, including her diaper every chance she got. It got to the point that we were having to go in 5-8 times a night to get her dressed, change bedding etc etc. So for the sake of my SANITY we came up with a way to prevent her from climbing out of her pj's. Hence backwards Pj's! Eric thought that duct taping her diaper on seemed too cruel, so he came up with this modification. Works great FYI!
The first pair of Pj's that Eric artistically modified!
Hope was able to have another egg hunt at Grandma and Grandpas house after conference. As soon as we pulled up to the house and she saw the balloons and eggs hiding she started shaking all over again. Hope everyone had a great Easter!
We had our Easter service the week before, so Hope had the chance to wear her new Easter dress. Unfortunately we took pictures while her hair was still wet and not done, but she looks pretty cute anyway, I think.
This was her Easter basket. Ignore the mess of toys shoved in the corner of the living room. The play room down stairs won't be done soon enough I am afraid.
The funniest thing was when she saw the trail of jelly beans to her basket she said "Oh no! Mess!" then tried to get it all cleaned up until she saw the eggs and realized that this could be pretty fun. We call this straight-from-bed-head.
She shakes when she gets excited, and that is what she is doing here. If you notice the lovely pj's, it is out of necessity that they are #1-boys pj's (75%off, and since we were just going to cut them up...) #2-feet cut out so that we can zip them up the back. When we got home from the hospital, she started taking ALL of her clothes off, including her diaper every chance she got. It got to the point that we were having to go in 5-8 times a night to get her dressed, change bedding etc etc. So for the sake of my SANITY we came up with a way to prevent her from climbing out of her pj's. Hence backwards Pj's! Eric thought that duct taping her diaper on seemed too cruel, so he came up with this modification. Works great FYI!
The first pair of Pj's that Eric artistically modified!
Hope was able to have another egg hunt at Grandma and Grandpas house after conference. As soon as we pulled up to the house and she saw the balloons and eggs hiding she started shaking all over again. Hope everyone had a great Easter!
Our remodel project
For the few of you that know what a mess we are in right now, I thought that I would share a few pics from our basement remodel. We live in an older home, and love the big established trees, that is until they start invading the plumbing. Long story short, we had a sewer main break in our basement, so my incredibly talented husband decided that he (and my dad of course) will do most of the work and we will re-do the WHOLE 1200 sq feet of our basement. I think I will just let the pictures tell the story. Can I tell you that after a LONG day of hauling brick, concrete and destroying whatever he can get his hands on, my husband also spends 2-3 hours cleaning the upstairs so that Hope and I can come home to a clean home. Eric is truly incredible, and I am so blessed to have him!
All of the windows used to be the small 1'x 2' windows, but we cut into the foundation to make some of the windows 4'x4'. It is such a huge improvement, I wish we could have done all of the windows!
All of the windows used to be the small 1'x 2' windows, but we cut into the foundation to make some of the windows 4'x4'. It is such a huge improvement, I wish we could have done all of the windows!
Hope is 2!
Hope turned 2 a few weeks ago, and I can't believe how time has slipped by! Can I just say that I am CRAZY about this girl. She is so much fun, and is so pleasant to have around (okay, 98% of the time!) She lives to have Eric and I close by. She is such a little sponge. We told her how to spell her name twice, and she still remembers, she is doing great with her numbers and is saying more and more everyday. Hope LOVES to dance, and read books. She is a great helper, and as long as I let her help with everything I am doing, all goes smoothly. Recently she says "I want to hold you" which actually means "I want you to hold ME". That's okay, she'll get it right sometime. She is so loving and happy. Here are a few pictures from her birthday. We had a last minute party at Grandma and Grandpas, because of our basement (which I will post pictures of later). Hope has picked up on Dora, so we went with that since it was an easy theme. I wasn't quite feeling up to doing anything big this year.
We went to meet Eric at work for lunch and headed to the new Cafe Rio (our new favorite!) This was on our way.
The lady cleaning the tables found out it was Hopes birthday and had everyone serving sing happy birthday while she brought out a little cake for Hope. I wish they wouldn't have done that because I would have never known how incredible the tres leches cake is!
This is what she did while we all sang Happy Birthday! She was showing her shy side.
So happy!
We went to meet Eric at work for lunch and headed to the new Cafe Rio (our new favorite!) This was on our way.
The lady cleaning the tables found out it was Hopes birthday and had everyone serving sing happy birthday while she brought out a little cake for Hope. I wish they wouldn't have done that because I would have never known how incredible the tres leches cake is!
This is what she did while we all sang Happy Birthday! She was showing her shy side.
So happy!
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Hope and Hope
So obviously, Hope has a double meaning to me these days. There is our 2 year old daughter(tomorrow is actually her birthday!). Then there is the Hope that comes after the trials of life. Gunner was born 8 weeks ago today, and my life feels like I am headed towards healing. I occasionally have thoughts that keep running through my mind as a reminder of the many blessings that I have experienced.
When I rock Hope before nap time and bed time, I sing some hymns and primary songs to her. (Trust me, I sing quiet enough so that only Hope must endure my singing voice!) I have always loved the hymn, "We Thank Thee, Oh God, For a Prophet", but at first I couldn't remember the words. So, I learned the first verse and added it to our sleep time ritual. A few weeks before we learned of Gunners condition, I decided that I also wanted to learn the 2nd verse. Having the desire to learn the second verse to songs, is not usually something that I do. The nagging in the back of my mind, pushed me to pick up the hymn book during sacrament meeting one day several months ago.
The second verse has helped me through some very trying times recently. When I first discovered how the song had a double meaning of Hope to me, I was overwhelmed with the love and gratitude I felt for Hope (yes, both of them). The second verse goes...
When dark clouds of trouble hang over us
And threaten our peace to destroy,
There is HOPE smiling brightly before us,
And we know that deliverance is nigh!!!
When I rock Hope before nap time and bed time, I sing some hymns and primary songs to her. (Trust me, I sing quiet enough so that only Hope must endure my singing voice!) I have always loved the hymn, "We Thank Thee, Oh God, For a Prophet", but at first I couldn't remember the words. So, I learned the first verse and added it to our sleep time ritual. A few weeks before we learned of Gunners condition, I decided that I also wanted to learn the 2nd verse. Having the desire to learn the second verse to songs, is not usually something that I do. The nagging in the back of my mind, pushed me to pick up the hymn book during sacrament meeting one day several months ago.
The second verse has helped me through some very trying times recently. When I first discovered how the song had a double meaning of Hope to me, I was overwhelmed with the love and gratitude I felt for Hope (yes, both of them). The second verse goes...
When dark clouds of trouble hang over us
And threaten our peace to destroy,
There is HOPE smiling brightly before us,
And we know that deliverance is nigh!!!
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Gunners Burial
We buried Gunner on January 19th, 2010 at the Estes Valley Memorial Gardens. The day started out windy and very cold. It was so incredible that every single one of our 9 siblings put their lives on hold to be there for us. We know that everyone sacrificed to be there. (We missed our two sisters-in-law and a niece that were unable to make it!)
The service was only about 20-25 minutes, just what we were hoping for. We asked our mothers to offer the prayers. Which, we knew was somewhat unfair considering they each followed a song that came with some difficult memories. We also asked our fathers to share a few words. Bishop Cleverley conducted the service, and offered a few words also. We had all of Gunners cousins sing "I Am A Child of God." I was impressed at how much they all seemed touched by what they were experiencing. Which can I mention I am sure is confusing to young children.
One side note is about when we were planning the service with Bishop Cleverley. I felt very strongly that we needed to ask our mothers to pray, even though I knew it was almost asking too much. It seemed obvious to ask our fathers to say a few words. The other obvious was that we wanted to close with the hymn "Families Can Be Together Forever." What was less obvious was what we should sing for the opening hymn, so we skipped it for a few minutes. The only hymn that kept coming to me was "Because I Have Been Given Much." My first thought was how unrelated the song is for a burial. Since, I have really come to understand just how relevant the song was and how grateful I am that I followed the prompting that I received.
As the last car pulled away, it began to snow. Eric and I weren't quite ready to leave, so we stayed a little longer. By the time Eric and I left, the ground was covered by a beautiful white blanket of snow. The cemetery is just beautiful, but covered by snow it had a different feel, almost like it had been a renewal? I don't have the words to explain just how it felt that day, and how it still feels in my heart.
When we first found out that we would need to start thinking about a burial, it felt overwhelming to be 30 years old and making such a decision. One day, I was going about my day and the thought came to me that we should look into the Estes Park cemetery. We quickly dismissed it when we found out that it would be considerably more expensive than other options. Long story short, the spirit started to pull Eric in that direction also. When he went to visit the cemetery the day after Gunner passed away, he couldn't deny that the spirit wanted this to be the final resting place for Gunner. The Lord has provided a way. Thank you to all of you that have given us so much support. I can't tell you how everyones kindness have made it possible for us to do what we felt Heavenly Father was asking us to do. It is difficult for us to accept the help, but we are also so overwhelmed by the generosity! Again, thank you!
Why Estes Park? For those of you that may not know we say that our family was started in Estes Park, Colorado. When Eric and I met, I was a senior in high school and Eric was living and working in Estes after graduating from high school there. MUCH of the time we spent in first our friendship, then dating, then engagement was spent either in Estes or traveling in between. That is at least an hour and 15 minute drive one way. Most weeks Eric made the trip many times.
We are now working on the headstone, and once that is in place, I am sure I will post again.
Eric carrying Gunner from the car to the burial site.
The cousins (and Hope) singing "I Am A Child Of God"
Eric's family except Aarons wife Pam and daughter Brynlee.
My family except Gables wife Laura.
This is to show you the contrast of just a few minutes. The snow really came down for a few minutes, then stopped. It was beautiful and felt very peaceful. I had to go and sit down in the car before Eric was ready to leave.
The service was only about 20-25 minutes, just what we were hoping for. We asked our mothers to offer the prayers. Which, we knew was somewhat unfair considering they each followed a song that came with some difficult memories. We also asked our fathers to share a few words. Bishop Cleverley conducted the service, and offered a few words also. We had all of Gunners cousins sing "I Am A Child of God." I was impressed at how much they all seemed touched by what they were experiencing. Which can I mention I am sure is confusing to young children.
One side note is about when we were planning the service with Bishop Cleverley. I felt very strongly that we needed to ask our mothers to pray, even though I knew it was almost asking too much. It seemed obvious to ask our fathers to say a few words. The other obvious was that we wanted to close with the hymn "Families Can Be Together Forever." What was less obvious was what we should sing for the opening hymn, so we skipped it for a few minutes. The only hymn that kept coming to me was "Because I Have Been Given Much." My first thought was how unrelated the song is for a burial. Since, I have really come to understand just how relevant the song was and how grateful I am that I followed the prompting that I received.
As the last car pulled away, it began to snow. Eric and I weren't quite ready to leave, so we stayed a little longer. By the time Eric and I left, the ground was covered by a beautiful white blanket of snow. The cemetery is just beautiful, but covered by snow it had a different feel, almost like it had been a renewal? I don't have the words to explain just how it felt that day, and how it still feels in my heart.
When we first found out that we would need to start thinking about a burial, it felt overwhelming to be 30 years old and making such a decision. One day, I was going about my day and the thought came to me that we should look into the Estes Park cemetery. We quickly dismissed it when we found out that it would be considerably more expensive than other options. Long story short, the spirit started to pull Eric in that direction also. When he went to visit the cemetery the day after Gunner passed away, he couldn't deny that the spirit wanted this to be the final resting place for Gunner. The Lord has provided a way. Thank you to all of you that have given us so much support. I can't tell you how everyones kindness have made it possible for us to do what we felt Heavenly Father was asking us to do. It is difficult for us to accept the help, but we are also so overwhelmed by the generosity! Again, thank you!
Why Estes Park? For those of you that may not know we say that our family was started in Estes Park, Colorado. When Eric and I met, I was a senior in high school and Eric was living and working in Estes after graduating from high school there. MUCH of the time we spent in first our friendship, then dating, then engagement was spent either in Estes or traveling in between. That is at least an hour and 15 minute drive one way. Most weeks Eric made the trip many times.
We are now working on the headstone, and once that is in place, I am sure I will post again.
Eric carrying Gunner from the car to the burial site.
The cousins (and Hope) singing "I Am A Child Of God"
Eric's family except Aarons wife Pam and daughter Brynlee.
My family except Gables wife Laura.
This is to show you the contrast of just a few minutes. The snow really came down for a few minutes, then stopped. It was beautiful and felt very peaceful. I had to go and sit down in the car before Eric was ready to leave.
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